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29Jan/150

Home Remedies For Children

You may think that Home Remedies don't help but often are the best ways to help them feel better. These remedies are time-tested treatments have side-effects, at a low cost or  no cost at all, most items needed you may already have in your home. "Some, like ginger and chamomile, have even been confirmed by scientific studies to have healing effect," says Hilary McClafferty, MD.

But of course you should call your pediatrician if your child's problem seems to be serious. But please next time your child has a minor ache/injury try these out. You may find solutions throughout your home.

Honey & Lemon Juice useful for  a Sore Throat

  • Lemon is useful to dry up the congestion and honey helps your throat by giving it a soothing coating, says Lane Johnson, MD. A recent study has been done that a spoonful of honey help with the kids' coughs even better than cough medicine. Mix a teaspoon both of  lemon and honey together, microwave for 20 seconds until warm ( not too hot ) have your child drink the mixture a teaspoon at a time. Caution: Honey is not safe for children under 1 year old.

Chamomile Tea for Colic

  • In the classic tale called Beatrix Potter's, Peter's mother gave him soothing chamomile tea, you are aloud to give your infant to relax his or her intestinal muscles also to calm them down, says Dr. McClafferty. Steam the tea for about four to five minutes, let it cool down to room temperature, put two ounces in a bottle. Don't give your child more then four ounces a day so that they will have enough room in their tummy for breast milk or formula.

Baking Soda used for Bug Bites

  • Baking soda is useful for bug bites to help counteract the acidic swelling, explained by Estelle Whitney, MD. Mix a teaspoon of baking soda with enough water to make a thick paste, smear it on bites, and let it dry out.

Cayenne Pepper for Nosebleeds

  • This spice is useful for blood clots, and has been used for medicinally in cultures around the world, said Lillian Beard, MD. Keep your child's head upright and pinch his/her for several minutes. Sprinkle a pinch of ground cayenne pepper on a damped q-tips/cotton swab and dab inside the nose area of the bleeding. It may string, surprising.

A Bubble Wand for Anxiety

  • You may think children may not get anxiety but they actually do. Ask your child to breath slowly and deeply she relax them when stressed or worked up. Have your child blow long, slow streams of bubbles from a soapy wand.

A Bandanna for Headache

  • While wrapping several ice cubes into a dish towel will help soother your child's head pain but never put ice directly on his/her skin it may burn . To keep the towel wrapped and secured , press it against his/her forehead or temples with a bandanna tied at the back of their neck.

A Sock for Tummy or Neck Pain

  • Instead of spending money on a heating wrap, make one at home filled with uncooked rice tying it closed with a string says Paula Gardiner, MD. Microwave the sock for about a minute or until its warm for you, place it on your child's pain area. When it cooled down microwave it again if pain hasn't stopped.

Your Blow-Dryer for Swimmers Ears

  • A earache may be very painful is cause when liquid gets trapped and possibly bacteria. If the area come infected, your doctor may prescribe antibiotic drops. For a mild case, you can also try evaporating the trapped water by standing a foot away while aiming the dryer on warm ( not too hot ) on his/her ear.

Fresh Ginger Tea for Car Sickness

  • For children use ages 2 and older, add a teaspoon of shredded fresh ginger to four ounces of boiling water, and let it set for four or five minutes. You can also add a bit of honey to make it taste better. After it finally cools down have your child drink a half hour before getting into the car.

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27Jan/150

A study shows single moms face challenges but find happiness

Being a single Mother can be a difficult task, but a 2014 study suggests that despite their challenges, they tend to be happy.

Researchers looked at women in Poland who gave birth while single. These women had to deal with numerous difficulties, including money problems, lack of partner support and social disapproval.

Even so, having a child did not lead to a decline in the women's happiness, according to the study published online recently in the Journal of Happiness Studies.

"An arrival of a child either had no impact or even increases the happiness of the single mothers," study co-author Anna Baranowska-Rataj, of Umea University in Sweden, said in a university news release.

Challenges faced by single mothers might somehow strengthen the bonds with their children, the researchers suggested.

"Despite all of the difficulties and problems -- or maybe because of them -- the children are moved to the absolute center of the woman's universe and they are the brightest aspect of their lives," study co-author Monika Mynarska, of Cardinal Stefan Wyszynski University in Poland, said in the news release.

"Moreover, children often give women the power to make decisions they had not been able to make before pregnancy," she added.

For example, the researchers found that being responsible for a child's care helped many single women escape unhappy or harmful relationships, and made them tread more carefully when starting a new one.

So, becoming a mother might help single women move their lives onto a "better track," according to Mynarska.

"All in all, we found no evidence to support the assumption that the lives of women who became single mothers would have turned out better if they had not given birth and had not decided to raise on their own," study co-author Anna Matysiak, of the Wittgenstein Centre in Austria, said in the news release.

Being a single Mother can be a difficult task, but a 2014 study suggests that despite their challenges, they tend to be happy.

Researchers looked at women in Poland who gave birth while single. These women had to deal with numerous difficulties, including money problems, lack of partner support and social disapproval.

Even so, having a child did not lead to a decline in the women's happiness, according to the study published online recently in the Journal of Happiness Studies.

"An arrival of a child either had no impact or even increases the happiness of the single mothers," study co-author Anna Baranowska-Rataj, of Umea University in Sweden, said in a university news release.

Challenges faced by single mothers might somehow strengthen the bonds with their children, the researchers suggested.

"Despite all of the difficulties and problems -- or maybe because of them -- the children are moved to the absolute center of the woman's universe and they are the brightest aspect of their lives," study co-author Monika Mynarska, of Cardinal Stefan Wyszynski University in Poland, said in the news release.

"Moreover, children often give women the power to make decisions they had not been able to make before pregnancy," she added.

For example, the researchers found that being responsible for a child's care helped many single women escape unhappy or harmful relationships, and made them tread more carefully when starting a new one.

So, becoming a mother might help single women move their lives onto a "better track," according to Mynarska.

"All in all, we found no evidence to support the assumption that the lives of women who became single mothers would have turned out better if they had not given birth and had not decided to raise on their own," study co-author Anna Matysiak, of the Wittgenstein Centre in Austria, said in the news release.

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22Jan/150

Here’s Some Tips On Raising A Child On Your Own

Don't think your alone, Single Parent-Families are more common

than ever.

Common Single Parent Challenges

They're many ways to handle this situation, also ways to a raise an healthy/happy child.

Being a Single Parent, you may have to adapt to a new lifestyle to take care of your child/children.

-While adapting to this new life-style it may cause pressure on yourself, stress and fatigue.

When being too tired or distracted to be emotionally supportive with your child it may cause behavior issues.

Many Single Parent Families struggle with many things

-Such as financial issues, issues having access with health plans, juggling jobs, worrying about billings being paid and child care.

How to Deal With These Single Parent Challenges

Daily Structure Routine-

Scheduling daily meals and bedtime can help your child expect what's coming

Here's Some Tips To Find A Reliable Baby-sitter-

Make sure the baby-sitter surrounding is safe and secure for your child/children.

Never reply  on your older child to be your babysitter

Make sure sitter has never been arrested or was convicted for a felony

Ask if they have their First Aid and CRP Certificati0n

How do they discipline the children

Setting Rules

Having house rules is always a great thing because your children will what's okay to do and what's not okay to do

Always use manners when needed shows a sign on respect

You may have kids but never forget about yourself. Some daily physical activity can help with stress. Eat right and healthy & always get plenty of sleep as needed. Arrange plans with friends/coworkers don't isolate yourself because of the situation your in.

Stay Positive

Don't give up on y0ur happiness

Always remind yourself and your child/children that things will get better don't always look at the bad things look at the finer things in life

Don't always be so negative

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21Jan/150

How to get an hour back every day

Being a single parent can be a hassle! Fortunately, there are several ways to save time and reduce stress.

Free time? What's that? Was there really an era when the washing machine wasn't in constant use, when you could have a spontaneous night on the town, when you didn't fall into bed each night in a state of near-clinical exhaustion?

Nowadays, your "me" time may be restricted to a few brief moments in the bathroom. The good news is that thanks to these time saving ideas from real moms, you can get a little of it back.

Make weekly menus. No guessing what to cook at dinnertime and no last-minute store runs.

Freeze sandwiches on Sunday to carry you through the week. Every morning, pop a sandwich in the lunch bag and you're good to go.

Plan clothing. I set my daughter's entire outfit (including her hair bow!) out the night before.

Use a shared online calendar (color-coded for home, school, and work) to stay in sync with your partner.

If you work, do errands on your lunch hour. I can get grocery shopping, picking up dry cleaning, and going to the post office out of the way and avoid going on nights and weekends.

Put your kids to bed earlier. It's counterintuitive, but my girls sleep better (and wake up later the next morning) when I put them to bed a half-hour earlier.

Don't argue over clothes – as long as they're weather-appropriate, I don't care what my kids wear.

Multitask. I always clean the bathroom while my son is in the tub.

I make lists so I don't wander around trying to remember things. My memory is shot.

Wake up before the kids to shower and dress. I'm more motivated when I'm not in my pj's.

Cook lots of one-pot meals on Sunday and freeze for the week.

I create monthly menus and shopping lists and never stray from them.

I have outfits ready in plastic bags so my daughter just has to pick a bag and get dressed.

Use to-do lists! I feel accomplished when I scratch something off, and that motivates me.

Prepare the night before. Yes, I'm exhausted, but I know that I'll breeze through the morning if I devote time after the kids are asleep to making lunches, putting homework in backpacks, and signing field trip permission slips. I also shower, pick out my outfit, and prepare my bag for work.

Alternate layers of rubber and regular sheets on kid beds for easy bed-wetting cleanup.

Cook baby food for the week, freeze it in ice cube trays, and pop it out for quick meals.

I don't fold my kids' clothes. This makes putting laundry away so much faster.

Buy all the same color socks and you'll never have to match them again.

Rotate toys in and out of storage to avoid clutter and boredom. This way, your kids will actually be excited to play with their own toys when you need to get stuff done.

Getting up 20 minutes before the kids keeps me from feeling behind all day.

I pay bills on my phone and do paperwork in the car while I'm waiting to pick up my kids.

I keep a box ready for too-small clothes and other things to donate to charity. I throw things in as I notice them, rather than having to go through all my kids' clothes and toys later.

My grocery list is a spreadsheet of items organized by the layout of our supermarket.

Use checklist apps on your phone to keep track of things like your grocery list.

I keep packages of wipes everywhere. They clean up almost everything quickly.

Keep shoes organized so you're not searching the house for them. In our house, each person has a labeled bucket for shoes. They go there and nowhere else.

I have a to-do bag that I carry with me, so I can take care of business when I have a moment.

Each kid has stuff in "her" color (jacket, lunch box, school folders, backpack) so I can easily keep track of whose things are whose.

I keep a freezer inventory – it's a spreadsheet listing all the frozen items we keep on hand (and how many we have), taped to the freezer door. Whenever I use something, I mark it on the spreadsheet. One quick look at the freezer and I know exactly what I can whip up for a quick dinner for my family of five.

Teach your kids to help where they can. Chores can start young. My 4-year-old helps me put away shoes, sweep, and dust.

I keep healthy snacks in a snack basket where the kids can reach them. That way, I'm not making snacks all day.

Keep toys to a minimum. Each child has one bin of special toys and that's it. This way, I spend less time putting lots of toys away, organizing them, and weeding out ones to give away.

I take a power nap when I can – just 20 minutes refreshes me and helps me be more productive for the rest of the day.

Absolutely no TV on weekdays. If it never happens, it's never an argument – so we don't waste time negotiating and bargaining.

My kids help out with laundry – we make a parachute game out of folding sheets.

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20Jan/150

Yes?No?Maybe? Do Disney Movies Relate to Single Parents?

May be wondering, why we are talking about Disney Characters/Movies. May be thinking, has nothing to do with being a single parent!

Oh no! Definitely they relate to single parents, especially the children. Most people have different opinions about Disney movies. Whether to allow their children to watch them. Some parents say it’s too much fantasy for them, they will think life works that easy. Especially for the girls, that they will find a rich handsome man, sweep them away from the situation they are from.

Now to the part you have been wondering about how they relate to single parents.

Most of these characters, start out with being with one parent, adoptive parents or no parents at all. These stories help children understand and have something to relate to what is going on in their lives. For example the movie- Cinderella

Cinderella losses her father, and is stuck with a person she hardly knows (stepmom). Many children actually go through it, more than we think do. We don’t know exactly how many, but we are sure there is children going through that situation. Cinderella wants a mother figure in her life, and just wants to please her new mom to accept her as her own. She cleans the whole house for her and her sisters, she cooks for them and does every command they say. SHE JUST WANTS TO BE PART OF A FAMILY

To keep it short, she ends up going to ball she’s not allowed to go to…how many kids sneak out or do the opposite of what their parents say? Lol. She ends up falling in love with the prince and the prince ends up falling in love with her, and live happily ever after and never has to clean ever again.

Okay, so the never again cleaning part, well is reality for some people, but for the average people we still clean. Our point we our trying to get across is, this movie is good to watch with the children, if you’re the stepmom for some laughs. Or just a single parent, and for the ones who have lost one parent.

It shows even if you have struggles to go through, whether you are being treated bad or lost a loved one. YOU can GET THROUGH it. Cinderella was able to cope with the loss of her father, for she knew how much he loved her. Even when surround with bad people around or bad bumps in the road. To know someone loved or loves you, and supports you to achieve your goals. You will be happy and you might not find that rich prince charming to get away from the struggles. But you, your self will find a way out and there is HOPE.

The point of these movies is giving hope to children and showing single parents that children grow up the same and become as successful as children with two parents. Children just need the love of their parent.

So we say YES to watch Disney movies they are educational, they bring hope and understanding in a fun, adorable, funny way. So grab that blanket and some popcorn in the bowl and start that extra bonding time.

Here is a small list of some movies of what situation they relate to.

  • Single parents: Dumbo, Beauty and the beast, Nemo, The little mermaid, Mulan, Pocahontas, Toy story, Aristocats and many more.
  • Adoptive/Step - parents: Pinocchio, Cinderella, Snow White, and many more.

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19Jan/150

Ways to Reduce Single-Parent Stress

One of every four American children today lives in a single-parent home. And though the circumstances may vary, the reality is that solo parenting is often stressful, demanding, and hectic. If you are a single mom or dad, there are things you can do to help minimize the stress in your life -- and bring back the joy of parenting.

Get a handle on finances

Raising a family on one income, or relying on an ex-spouse for child support, can be one of the hardest aspects of parenting alone. That's why it's important to take steps to budget your money, learn about long-term investments, plan for college and retirement, and, if possible, enhance your earning power by going back to school or getting additional job training.

Set up a support system

All single parents need help -- whether it's someone to watch the kids while you run out to do errands or simply someone to talk to when you feel overwhelmed. While it's tempting to try to handle everything alone, ask friends and family members for help. You could join a single-parent support group, or, if finances allow, hire a trusted sitter to help out with the kids or someone to assist with housework.

Maintain a daily routine

Try to schedule meals, chores, bedtimes, and other family functions at regular hours so that your child knows exactly what to expect each day. A consistent routine will help your child feel more secure and help you feel more organized.

Answer questions honestly

Inevitably, questions will come up about the changes in your family, or about the absence of one parent. Answer your child's questions in an open, honest, and age-appropriate way. Make sure that your child gets the help and support he needs to deal with difficult emotions.

Take time for your children

Even though the piles of laundry and dirty dishes may beckon, set aside time each day to enjoy your kids. (After all, isn't that what parenting is all about?) Spend quiet time playing, reading, going for a walk, or simply listening to music together. And most important, focus on the love between you and on your relationship as a family.

Take time for yourself

Likewise, it's important to schedule time for yourself. Even if it's something as simple as reading a book, taking a warm bath, or having a chat with a friend, setting aside a little personal time will give you a chance to refuel.

Stay positive

It's easy to become overwhelmed by all the responsibilities and demands of single parenthood. On top of that, you may be experiencing the pain of divorce or the death of a spouse. Despite all of your own feelings, though, it's important to maintain a positive attitude, since your children are affected by your moods. The best way to deal with stress is to exercise regularly, maintain a proper diet, get enough rest, and seek balance in your life. If you're feeling sad, it's okay to share some of your sentiments with your children, but let them know that they are not the cause of the problems -- and that good times lie ahead for all of you.

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15Jan/150

Tips On Saving Money

The hardest part of the day is to choose the five dollar meal for each person, or choose the forty dollar one time dinner meal. You won’t have to worry about that anymore! Our motto is "sharing is caring", we will show you some tricks on how to save money for those healthy meals. So let’s begin our journey together in the lessons of saving more...

COUPONS!

They will become your best friend. We know some people are embarrassed to use them, don’t Be! There are a lot people using them nowadays. You can even download coupon apps on your phone. For more information on coupons:

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Using coupons is one of the best ways to start budgeting and saving. Many people are worried about eating unhealthy, but most of the times people have to choose between having money for gas to get to work or buy a cheap five dollar meal.

People get to the point of not eating, are embarrassed to ask for food stamps, and others are misinformed of the qualifications. Take a shot at coupons. We coupon all the time! We use them at restaurants and retail stores on the daily. We know in our minds that these stores offer coupons for certain products, and we are saving money while others are paying full price. We call that “SMART SHOPPING"!

THRIFTING!

People have a hard time buying second hand items. But the truth is you can find some amazing finds in the thrift stores. You just have to check out the stores to find the one with the best items. Tips on how to find that perfect second hand store...

TIPS:

  • AREA! If you know that part of your county that is known for the high-end neighbors. There is for sure a second hand store in that area. They love to donate their items that have only been worn once or the most twice! Amazing right? And even some with tags still on!
  • Make sure to check for tears, but if it's just a button that's missing, it’s less than a dollar to sew a button back on!
  • White items try to stay away, they tend to have stains. But once in a while, there is always that one white item that is perfect. :)

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12Jan/150

the pursuit of HAPPYness

Hello to all of our Single Parents out there!

Sorry we haven't blogged in a while. We missed you and hope all is well. We recently added an entire member area to our website www.SPAOA.org, which is filled with information that may be able to help you. Check it out and leave us some feedback. We look forward to helping you all!

Today we wanted to share about a movie that planted a little seed inside of our organization and REALLY motivated and inspired us all; The Pursuit of Happyness. The movie is based on a true story about a poor, single father, Chris Gardner (Will Smith) with only a high-school education — who became a stock broker using only intelligence, hard work, and a limitless will to succeed. Everyone has their own intake of what the movie means to them, but this is what we grabbed from it:

The Pursuit of Happyness has as its actual mythic American dream story, where anyone can become successful through dedication and hard work. Will Smith’s “The Pursuit of Happyness” is an admirably positive and optimistic film. “Pursuit” is a stereotype breaker in every scene, and this is no accident. This is a film with the unashamed message that America is a place where individuals aren’t rewarded by pity, but through initiative, sacrifice and hard work. Chris Gardner’s success came by motivating himself with love for his son, and hanging tough in a superhuman drive to outdo people with racial, social and educational advantage.

And when he achieves his goal- a genuinely emotional breakthrough that will be hard for any man who loves his family to resist. Little did his fellow corporate co-workers know that this is a man who has been sleeping in restrooms and at homeless shelters, but they are treating him completely in line with the content of his character and not in pity. At a moment when he is nearly starving, his boss- a millionaire- asks him for five dollars for cab fare. Gardner gives it to him because that is who he is and will always be.

The lesson to take away from “The Pursuit of Happyness” isn’t that anyone can make it in America. Gardner wasn’t “anyone. He was poor, but he had that pursuit of one in a million!

"The Pursuit of Happyness” shows that anyone can make it; on the contrary, it shows that for someone starting with nothing in America, it takes a ludicrous amount of talent and drive to pull oneself up.

Fall seven times, stand up eight!

16Jul/140

Are Two Parents Really Better Than One?

As a single parent, you may often wonder if your child is less happy than families who have both parents in the picture. But a new study shows that "Broken homes" may not be broken, after all.

A group of researchers from the UK analyzed data from over 12,000 7-year old children, and found that children from single parent families are just as happy as those living with two biological parents, or one biological parent and one step-parent.

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"It is not the family composition that matters- but the quality of the relationships at home".

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9Jun/142

Small Acts Of Kindness:

Sarah is a single mom working as a waitress at Ruby Tuesday. Two customers came into her work during her lunch shift, in their national guard uniforms. She overheard them talking about how they wanted to order something small, since they were low on cash. They also mentioned that this was due to the government shutdown, which was messing heavily with their income. Being a single mom, Sarah also knew what it was like to go through financial hardship. So out of the kindness of her heart, she covered the lunch for both of the customers. She also left a note, which was posted to facebook by the customers. This small act of kindness got so much attention, and it even received the attention from Ellen Degeneres.

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Even as a single parent going home with $8 dollars in tips in her pocket, Sarah went out of her way to show kindness to others who were also suffering through hardship. She is a wonderful example to do well unto others. No matter what situation you are in, never forget to be kind to one another, and to reach out to others in need. You never know how the universe will reward you.

God Bless you single parents, and remember to "Be kind to one another".